How To Thrive (Not Survive) As A Single Mom!
It is no doubt that single mothers are faced with many challenges throughout their journey. However, I would like to invite you to look at the challenges as opportunities for something better. We are never stuck unless we choose to be and part of the process is becoming aware of the true power we have to transform our lives, even if you are a single mom and doing it all!
Put Yourself First …
It may seem impossible to do this and some days it is. However, putting yourself first does not mean that you have to stop everything. It can be a simple act such as taking a nap when your children do or giving yourself a pedicure after the children have gone to sleep. If you neglect yourself and stop doing everything that you know makes you happy and makes you feel good, you will only contribute to a cycle of unhappiness.
Learn To Say No…
Saying no is difficult for many people. We have learned that saying no is a bad thing but I’d like to invite you to look at it from a different perspective. If you know your “no’s” then you know what you can say “yes” to. If you have healthy boundaries, then more than likely you will be able to teach your children the same thing. No is a powerful word and can speak volumes of love and respect when used appropriately.
Remember Who You Are…
You are more than just a mom. That is just one of your many roles. You must get back in touch with yourself as an individual and as a woman. Think of some ways that you can get in touch with yourself on all levels: physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually. Make a list and pick one. Go through your list and make a commitment to honor yourself that way.
Get Rid Of The Blame…
As a single mom, it is so easy to point a finger at any outside source when you are feeling stressed out or overwhelmed. Of course, stressful moments can activate untouched feelings or unfinished business as to why you are a single mom to begin with. This can be difficult. However, you will only prolong the healing process and your personal freedom the more you continue to blame. Take your power back and be accountable for your choices and your current life situation. There are solutions to every problem and if you are not in your power (and this happens by blaming others) you won’t be open to the blessings and resources God has for you because your communication channels will be clogged with toxic thinking.
Design Your Future…
If you don’t know where you are going, then you won’t get there. You will stay exactly where you are. I am sure that this is not what you want and that deep down inside you have a burning desire, passion and vision for yourself. It’s easy to get out of touch with that when you become a single mom because your entire life all of a sudden revolves around raising your children and providing the best life possible for them. This is your moment to create victory out of chaos. Where would you like to be 3 years from now? You are in the driver’s seat of your life and you get to steer it in the direction you want.
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Veena V says:
Very powerful tips, love them. It’s true what Marilyn is saying ‘you are in the drivers seat of your life’, you have the power to change the situation you are in and your way of thinking. I know how difficult it is to be a single parent and you have to just get on with it and stop feeling sorry for yourself. I have cried countless times, but it came to a point when I thought this is a waste of my energy! This energy I put into having fun with my son and parents and working hard, it’s a slow process but you will get to where you want to be. Go to http://www.vipregnancy.com/usefullink.asp for links to single parent advice sites & watch VIP TV for a special on being a single parent.
